Reading List

Here are some books that will help you with dealing with Anger, Stress and Mindfulness.


Beating Anger: The Eight-Point Plan for Coping with Rage

Here is the perfect book to help anyone from 16-75 years old to beat their anger – or help anyone else to do the same. Aimed at parents, families, young adults and teachers, social and youth workers, health care professionals, managers, customer service departments, psychotherapists and counsellors – there cannot be many men or women who have not felt uncomfortable when they are angry, and wondered what to do about it.


Mindfulness & the Art of Managing Anger: Meditations on Clearing the Red Mist

Mindfulness & the Art of Managing Anger explores the powerful emotion of toxic anger – what it is, why we experience it and how we can learn to control its destructive power through the very nature of mindfulness. Fusing Western and Buddhist thought, therapeutic tools, specific meditative practices and frank personal anecdotes, this book reveals how we can all clear the red mist for peaceful wellbeing.

It was a time for celebration in the office when it was discovered that Mikes book – Beating Anger, was featured in the Times lifestyle section on Saturday 2 February 2013. Written over 8 years ago, Beating Anger has been shortlisted as one of the top 15 self help books of all time by Cecillia d’Felice, a leading psychologist. Read more here

Our Favourites

  1. Facing the Fire: Experiencing and Expressing Anger Appropriately by John Lee and Bill Scott (Bantam Doubleday Bell, 1997)
  2. Full Catastrophe Living: How to Cope with Stress, Pain and Illness using Mindfulness Meditation by Jon Kabat-Zinn (Piatkus, 2001)
  3. Get Some Headspace: 10 Minutes Can Make All the Difference by Andy
  4. Puddicombe (Hodder & Stoughton, 2011)
  5. Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw (Piatkus Books, 1999)
  6. Mindfulness for Dummies by Shamash Alidina (John Wiley & Sons, 2010)
  7. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Puddle Dancer Press, 2003)
  8. One to One: Self-Understanding through Journal Writing by Christina Baldwin (M. Evans & Co. Inc., 1977, updated 1991)
  9. The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford (Mobius, 2001)
  10. The Mindful Manifesto: How Doing Less and Noticing More Can Help Us
  11. Thrive in a Stressed-Out World by Dr Jonty Heaversedge and Ed Halliwell (Hay House UK, 2010)
  12. The Path of Mindfulness Meditation: Finding Balance in the Midst of Chaos:
  13. The Application of Mindfulness and Vipassana Meditation for Personal Transformation by Peter Strong (Outskirts Press, 2010)
  14. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle (Hodder, 2001)
  15. Vinegar into Honey: Seven Steps to Understanding and Transforming Anger, Aggression and Violence by Ron Leifer (Snow Lion Publications, 2008)
  16. Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation for Everyday Life  by Jon Kabat-Zinn (Piatkus, 2004)
  17. Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improve Your Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress by John Gray (Harper Element, 2008)

Our Amazon Reading List

  1. Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships – Daniel Goleman
  2. Tears & Tantrums: What to Do When Babies and Children Cry – Aletha J. Solter
  3. Growing Yourself Back Up – John Lee
  4. Facing The Fire – John Lee
  5. Homecoming – John Bradshaw
  6. Healing The Shame That Binds You – John Bradshaw
  7. The Family – John Bradshaw
  8. Emotional Intelligence – Daniel Goleman
  9. Fire In The Belly – Sam Keen
  10. The Sibling Society – Robert Bly
  11. The Road Less Travelled – M Scott Peck
  12. The Dance Of Anger – Harriet Lerner
  13. The Dance Of Intimacy – Harriet Lerner
  14. The Dance of Deception – Harriet Lerner
  15. The Mother Dance -Harriet Lerner
  16. Women Who Run With The Wolves – Clarissa Pinkola Estes
  17. Reclaiming The Dark Feminine: The Price Of Desire – Carolyn Baker
  18. Waking The Tiger – Peter Levine
  19. Power And Control – Sandra Horley
  20. Women Who Love Too Much – Robin Norwood
  21. The Art Of Loving – Eric Fromm
  22. The Essential Difference – Simon Baron Cohen
  23. Anger At Work – Hendrie Weisinger
  24. Don’t Take It Personally! – Elayne Savage
  25. The Nice Factor Book – Robin Chandler& Jo Ellen Grzyb
  26. Who Moved My Cheese – Spencer Johnson
  27. The Private Life Of The Brain – Susan Greenfield
  28. Why Men Don’t Listen & Women Can’t Read Maps – Allan & Barbara Pease
  29. Nonviolent Communication – Marshall B Rosenberg
  30. Stress Management For Busy People – Carol Turkington
  31. Managing Stress In A Changing World – Susan Balfour
  32. The Book Of Stress Survival – A Kirsta
  33. Teach Yourself Managing Stress – Terry Looker & Olga Gregson
  34. Eight Essential Steps To Conflict Resolution – Dudley Weeks
  35. How To Disagree Without Being Disagreeable – Suzette Haden Elgin
  36. Anger Management: A Practical Guide for Teachers, Parents and Carers – Adrian Faupel, Elizabeth Herrick, Peter Sharp
  37. Breaking Up Without Cracking Up: Practical Guide to Separation and Divorce – Christopher Compston
  38. The Anger Workbook – Lorraine Bilodeau
  39. Overcoming Anger And Irritability – William Davies
  40. Coping With Temper Tantrums – Nina Grunfeld
  41. From Foetus to Child – Alessandra Piontelli
  42. Managing Anger: Simple Steps to Dealing with Frustration and Threat – Gael Lindenfield

Recent Blog Posts

Blog posts about other great books we’ve encountered

The Protection Instinct

    You may find in life that some individuals are more guarded than others. For example they may talk freely about some topics and constrict the information they are giving you in other areas. Some people may just shut down completely. This is because they feel naturally inclined to protect themselves in certain situations. You may know someone like this or you may well be this person. If you are this person it is important not to bottle up your emotions. Suppressed anger is not healthy neither is suppressing your frustrations as this will lead to resentment towards the person who has hurt us. We often assume that other people should know what it is that they have done wrong. However, they are not mind readers so it is down to you to make them aware of your feelings, as often they do not even realise that they have hurt you. So the way that you express your anger is important. Some people are inherently uncomfortable with other people expressing their anger. This is down to their own personal experience. The same way you expressing your anger is down to yours. However, just as our experiences vary, how we express our anger varies as well. This is when it is time to communicate, let those close to you know how you are feeling and what actions occurred in order for you to feel that way.  Sometimes our own selfish needs may cloud our judgement but it is important to share even if you are embarrassed about how you are feeling. Remember it is never a bad thing to...

No Need For Closure

    Sometimes you do not get closure. You do not get an explanation or an apology. To find peace within yourself you will need to accept an apology that was never given. This is because by holding onto the anger that you feel over this injustice will wear you down. This goes for previous relationships, friendships or the playground bully. You want to be able to explain to the person who wronged you how you feel and show them the consequences of their actions. You want to feel in the right. You want them to be able to recognize what they did wrong. You want them to explain to you why they chose to do or act in the way that they did, you want an admission of guilt. And ultimately you want a resolution. But sometimes the only resolution is for you to walk away and let this intoxicating person go. Each of these previous examples will have hurt you in different ways, but the way we process and deal with our emotions in given situations are often the same. You may find yourself stuck in a reoccurring pattern, forever trapped in the same cycle; this may be because of the way you have chosen to deal or not deal with the emotional trauma and turmoil that you have experienced. You yourself may have brushed off the hurt from a failed relationship, broken friendship or the humiliation caused by your arch nemesis from your school days but you probably have not forgotten it. This may go a long way to explaining that smarting feeling you get when...