by admin | Oct 12, 2016 | Media
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by Hannah | Oct 11, 2016 | Media
You may find in life that some individuals are more guarded than others. For example they may talk freely about some topics and constrict the information they are giving you in other areas. Some people may just shut down completely. This is because they feel naturally inclined to protect themselves in certain situations. You may know someone like this or you may well be this person. If you are this person it is important not to bottle up your emotions. Suppressed anger is not healthy neither is suppressing your frustrations as this will lead to resentment towards the person who has hurt us. We often assume that other people should know what it is that they have done wrong. However, they are not mind readers so it is down to you to make them aware of your feelings, as often they do not even realise that they have hurt you. So the way that you express your anger is important. Some people are inherently uncomfortable with other people expressing their anger. This is down to their own personal experience. The same way you expressing your anger is down to yours. However, just as our experiences vary, how we express our anger varies as well. This is when it is time to communicate, let those close to you know how you are feeling and what actions occurred in order for you to feel that way. Sometimes our own selfish needs may cloud our judgement but it is important to share even if you are embarrassed about how you are feeling. Remember it is never a bad thing to...
by Hannah | Oct 11, 2016 | Media
Sometimes you do not get closure. You do not get an explanation or an apology. To find peace within yourself you will need to accept an apology that was never given. This is because by holding onto the anger that you feel over this injustice will wear you down. This goes for previous relationships, friendships or the playground bully. You want to be able to explain to the person who wronged you how you feel and show them the consequences of their actions. You want to feel in the right. You want them to be able to recognize what they did wrong. You want them to explain to you why they chose to do or act in the way that they did, you want an admission of guilt. And ultimately you want a resolution. But sometimes the only resolution is for you to walk away and let this intoxicating person go. Each of these previous examples will have hurt you in different ways, but the way we process and deal with our emotions in given situations are often the same. You may find yourself stuck in a reoccurring pattern, forever trapped in the same cycle; this may be because of the way you have chosen to deal or not deal with the emotional trauma and turmoil that you have experienced. You yourself may have brushed off the hurt from a failed relationship, broken friendship or the humiliation caused by your arch nemesis from your school days but you probably have not forgotten it. This may go a long way to explaining that smarting feeling you get when...
by Hannah | Sep 25, 2016 | Media
As the world seems to be getting angrier, the need for anger coaches to help manage anger and stress is increasing exponentially, across the globe. With the hectic lifestyle more and more people are becoming accustomed to, the more people are missing out on a good night’s sleep, which, as we know, increases anger and irritability and decreases our tolerance for putting up with stressful situations. As well as the sleepless nights that come with this lifestyle, heavy workloads and fast approaching deadlines cause us to feel stretched, almost to the limit, and can reduce us to a puddle of mixed emotions, meaning that we are more likely to snap at our spouses, children and colleagues. This is where the anger coach comes in. The anger coach can help us to understand that when we get angry, we are often reduced to our most childlike self- we are unable to think rationally and behave accordingly. This is usually because the trigger- what made us angry in the first place- is often linked to a childhood situation where we were made to feel helpless or similar. It is therefore important that we reflect back and analyse our adult behaviour on this contemplation. Anger coaches are imperative to support and encourage us to recognise that the healthy expression of anger is a powerful opportunity for healing and transformation. Anger coaches facilitate groups, couples and individuals to better manage the negative forces of stress and anger in every aspect of our lives. The goal of the anger coach is to help us, the clients, to find healthy solutions when dealing...
by Hannah | Sep 16, 2016 | Media
Anger is often the root of an addict’s problem. Unfortunately, substance abusers, drug addicts and alcoholics do not identify their anger as connected to their addiction. This is problematic as since they do not recognise anger as the psychological origin of their addiction they are not able to seek help for this particular aspect of their disorder. Anger is the emotional anguish we experience when we feel unfulfilled. Anger is often the emotional predecessor of the misuse of cocaine and alcohol. To avoid this anguish and suffering and to relieve themselves of the pain they are feeling they abuse substances until they are emotionally numb. Unfortunately, this is not expressing their anger but suppressing it. People who suppress their anger often end up exploding and/ or experiencing depression. Suppressed anger is the anger that is swept under the carpet or pushed down to deal with another day. This suppression of anger means that aside from the addiction, the addict now has another problem to be diagnosed, depression. Many clinical studies have used anger management as a successful intervention for reducing or preventing a relapse of the substance abuse. This is because most frequently anger is a relapse trigger. This is due to the suppression of anger leading the individual to explode, leaving the addict in their red mist, thinking irrationally, and leaving them vulnerable to a relapse and return to substance abuse. During this time it is frequently reported that individuals decide that they want to punish other people or that they do not care about their own wellbeing. They very quickly forget their efforts to construct...
by Hannah | Aug 25, 2016 | Media
We live in a society which seems to promote anger, violence and aggression. We cannot go a day where we look at our social media feeds and not see something violent. Action movies and programmes involving violence are becoming more prevalent. And we as a society are exposing our children to violence as a result. In this day and age it is hard to protect your child from the aggression and violence of this world. When they go to school they discuss the action packed film they saw at the cinema over the weekend or the fight that they saw on their Facebook feed. But one thing you can control is the violence that you expose your child to within your own home. It has been established by Bandura that exposure to violent role models increases aggression in children, in comparison to those children who were exposed to non-aggressive role models or no role model at all. This is true for ‘live,’ filmed and cartoon role models. This means that the films or programmes your child watches can influence their behaviour. It is well established that violent video games increase aggression. There is greater evidence of short-term effects from violent video games than of long-term effects. However, Hasan, Begue, Scharkow & Bushman (2013) conducted an experiment to look for the long term effects of violent video games. They found that over days the violent games players displayed an increase in aggressive behaviour, whereas those playing nonviolent video game showed no increase of aggressive behaviour. On the other hand it has been suggested that aggressive feelings post-gaming could...
